Monday, July 28, 2014

monsterousgirl:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video

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It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

I think you’re missing one of the points. The idea that one of the only industry’s in which women see any semblance of equality in pay is an industry that requires so much of a physical and emotional toll on women. That’s not fair, its not equal. She’s pointing out that women should have other options for a fair wage other than having sex with people on camera. That’s a huge disparity. The work she did as a teacher, as a waitress, as a secretary, was not half as highly valued as the work she did as a porn star and that is a huge example of how unequal pay is for women in America. I think this makes a great point and I think that Sasha was the perfect person to point that out. Also I don’t think this “lets protect porn because people always come down on female porn stars” is the right way to go about it. The porn industry is an exploitative, discriminatory, abusive, and harmful thing that has major problems and people need to talk about it. 

viiking:

This is Peppermint. He’s the one-eared, three-legged, sixteen year old office cat at the veterinary I work at. Every day he comes up to one of us and meows for treats. If one does not give them to him right away, he starts clawing at your leg and looking at you with desperation in his eyes.

mjw91:

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annieelainey:

RETRAIN YOUR BRAIN: Repeat after me: Be more critical of the media, be less critical of yourself.
Why spend your time nit picking in the mirror? Why not question the track that brought you to this point? WHY ARE YOU SO CRITICAL OF YOUR BODY? There are a number of reasons, but for now, let’s just look at one. Why not question the media/advertising? Use that energy that you use to criticize your reflection, to change the world, before focusing so much on changing your body.
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BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

annieelainey:

RETRAIN YOUR BRAIN: Repeat after me: Be more critical of the media, be less critical of yourself.

Why spend your time nit picking in the mirror? Why not question the track that brought you to this point? WHY ARE YOU SO CRITICAL OF YOUR BODY? There are a number of reasons, but for now, let’s just look at one. Why not question the media/advertising? Use that energy that you use to criticize your reflection, to change the world, before focusing so much on changing your body.

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

okagami:

marypsue:

Kill the idea that naivety is an unforgivable flaw but cynicism is just wisdom, murder it, chop it up and serve it for dinner, I don’t care, just end this bullshit idea that it’s better to hate than to love and better to rot in miserable bitter resignation than to hope for the best.

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highenoughtoseethesea:

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deergoths:

so this study came out on the more long term effects of HRT (warn for cissexist and generally outdated gross terminology; wide-spanning medical tw)

and it basically says hormone therapy is safe; the results are “reassuring” and side effects are less than they thought

but like, this one part really stood out to me:

"At entry into the study (baseline), the most common comorbidity in both groups was depression, with a 24.9% incidence in MTF subjects and 13.6% in FTM, according to Dr. Asscheman. He noted, however, that the frequency of depression varied greatly among the study centers.

Even after treatment, 26 (2.4%) of the MTF subjects and 7 (1.4%) of the FTM subjects still reported depression, leading Dr. Asscheman to tell the large audience, “Sex-reassignment treatment does not cure depression.”

(tldr: 25% of trans girls and women were depressed before starting estrogen/etc, but that dropped down to only 2% with HRT

14% of trans guys were depressed before taking testosterone/etc, and that dropped to only 1% with T.)

so, ok, two points:

a) nothing cures depression, so that’s not a shocker lmao; b) these rates are better than any antidepressant

i very well might be reading something wrong here; its been a long difficult day and im not really on the ball rn, and its always possible to misinterpret things

but right now what it seems like is more cis people denying the fact that getting trans people access to the treatment they need* is a more effective way to treat depression than the pills marketed for that, with less side effects.

i guarantee if any med on the market had results like these, it would be lauded as a miracle cure. if there was a food that did this, itd be harvested til endangerment

but since this is something that only helps/effects trans people, and bc HRT has a direct relationship with us and us alone, docs are denying its effects and usefulness

like, psych meds are massively stigmatized (bc ableism) but they make (mostly) neurotypical professionals in the industry richer, so theyre still supported

and this is considering the fact that the most effective ones work for like half the folks who try them

true, this is a much smaller test group, but still: when rates of depression drop from 25% to 2% you cant deny the fact that its helping!!! unless the folks in question are trans, of course

unless supporting access to affordable HRT would help trans folks, esp trans women

because according to the medical industry mentally ill folks arent worth anything if you cant make money off us, and when were trans, why bother helping, right?

im just really, really tired

TLDR: hormone replacement therapy is even safer than we thought

and it has shown massive decrease in depression in the trans folks studied over time

but despite the fact that HRT seems to be more effective and possibly safer than any antidepressant, doctors still say “it doesnt cure depression” as a way of denying the fact that it’s a ridiculously good treatment option

bc #transmisogyny and #transphobia

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*NOT TO SAY all trans folks need HRT, or that any trans person needs to transition in any way—social or physical—to be legitimate or “really trans.” but for some of us it’s literally life-saving, so it is a need for SOME of us.

@ truscu.m: do not use this post to support the ideology that all trans folks need to take hormones. fuck off. not all of us want to or have access, and it’s none of your business anyway what any other trans person does with their body. we’re all valid

postmodernismruinedme:

darkly-stark:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print. 
Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Thank fuck, I love this post

^^^^

postmodernismruinedme:

darkly-stark:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print. 

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Thank fuck, I love this post

^^^^

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